Monday, March 30, 2009

Umbrellas

There was recently a photo in The Dispatch taken on a gray, rainy day last week. It showed a dark, drab city skyline with a man carrying a bright red umbrella in the foreground. The red umbrella not only protected him from the chilly drizzle, but it was like a bright beacon in a dreary picture.


This photo sparked a thought: When the stressors are raining down, what could our "umbrellas" be? How can we use this umbrella to help us grow toward or maintain wellness?

Perhaps:

A phone call to a trusted, supportive friend

Five minutes of slow, deep breathing

A quick walk around the block


Keep thinking! We'll explore this a bit more at our meeting tonight.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Support Group Meeting Monday evening

Our next support group meeting is coming up Monday evening, March 30.

The meeting begins at 7pm at our usual location, Northwest Counseling Services.

Please call the Support Line for more information (614)315-8989

Saturday, March 21, 2009

"Momshell?" Hmmm...

Yeah, that's what we need - even more pressure to be perfect. Perfect kids, perfect house...now perfect body? Now we're going to start idolizing mothers who look like they've never given birth? According to the recent AP article, 'Momshell' might be next door, it could be a new trend for moms.

To give them credit, the Hot Moms Club, who are interviewed for the story, are clear that being "hot" isn't all about looks. Social networking for moms is their plainly stated purpose. A great service, indeed. But, in their several features of celebrity moms, a reminder that these women have assistants, nannies and personal trainers at their disposal would be fantastic.

Here at POEM, we're all for moms taking good care of themselves and being healthy and fit. But as with all things mommy, it's about balance. If you want to have a perfect figure, the best hair, the trendy clothes - all things that seem to fall into this so-called "momshell" ideal - then you have to give up some things. Are we discussing what things these "hot moms" give up in order to make their appearance a top priority?

Make no mistake: In being in the business of mom support, we believe that each mother is the expert of her own life. And each mother needs to take time to be her own person OUTSIDE of being a mom. And if a mom chooses to focus on fitness and her looks - we support her in that decision.

But to say, "These days, it's all about being a momshell..." Nope. It's all about finding what works in your own life - and that is beautiful.

Friday, March 20, 2009

Support Group Meeting Tomorrow

Our next Columbus area Support Group meeting is tomorrow at 10am.

We're at our usual location - Northwest Counseling Services...although we might be in the (bigger - yippee!) downstairs meeting room.

In addition to our regular pregnancy/postpartum and our Maternal Wellness groups, we will have a short discussion on accessing resources. How can we best connect moms to the resources that exist in the community? We'll discuss our own experiences - from the difficulties in just picking up the phone to what we found once we did make a call.

ALSO: Following the meeting, we're having a Mentor/volunteer training session. Opportunities to make a difference await!

Monday, March 16, 2009

D.E.C.O.M.P.R.E.S.S.

We love acronyms here at POEM. And USA Weekend's Dr. Tedd Mitchell has a great one for combating stress. Be sure to get the most out of these tips by reading the full HealthSmart column. Note: The "organize your life" and "put people first" tips are applicable to our Maternal Wellness group moms, not new postpartum mamas.

Don't depend on drugs or alcohol.
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Exercise.
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Control spending.
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Organize your life.
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Medicate.
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Put people first. (shameless plug: volunteer with POEM!)
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Relax.
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Eat nutritiously.
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Sleep.
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Simplify.
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Sunday, March 15, 2009

We've heard this so many times before...

"Maybe I just wasn't meant to be a mom..." At POEM, we've heard it so much from moms suffering from PPD, we included it in our common feelings right on the homepage of our website.

A mother recently wrote to Carolyn Hax at the Washington Post, confessing similar feelings. And, it seems that her husband's having a hard time, too.

Carolyn gave this mom excellent advice - go talk to your doctor, get screened for PPD & do it right away. Absolutely.

Now, there's no certainty that this mom does have PPD, but she definitely seems to be suffering from unrealistic expectations. She mentions that she can't talk to anyone because of the shame of their "failure." What has this couple failed? What was the test? For the most part, as long as your trying your best - you're passing. Loving parenthood all the time is impossible. And she's reaching out, looking for help. That's the mark of a good parent - doing what you have to do to promote the health of your family.

In addition to a doctor visit and screening - This family situation cries out for the care that is Postpartum Support International. Not only can PSI provide them much needed empathetic listening, but peer support often helps families understand that it's a myth that parents should love being parents all the time.

The local PSI coordinator can offer her compassion, understanding and hope for the future.

And, there's help just for Dad: There's a fantastic resource called the Postpartum Dads Project. And, he can contact the PSI Dads coordinators, listed at the bottom of the resources page on PSI's website.

Indeed, Ms. Hax, call in the troops.

Friday, March 13, 2009

Mt. Carmel Perinatal Conference Registration Brochure

Here's another excellent education opportunity from the fine folks at Mt. Carmel:

Click HERE for the Conference/Registration Brochure

It's in April, which is coming around the corner. (Hooray...finally) Get your registration in today!

Registration materials now available for Columbus PPD Conferences

Registration for "The Many Faces of Perinatal Mood Disorders" conferences presented by the Franklin County Maternal Depression Task Force is now open.

CLICK HERE FOR THE CONFERENCE/REGISTRATION BROCHURE

The Task Force is a collaborative effort among individuals representing The Ohio State University Medical Center, OhioHealth, Mount Carmel, Council on Healthy Mothers and Babies, Nationwide Children's Hospital, POEM, Columbus Public Health and other agencies in Central Ohio. It was organized to address the lack of awareness and education regarding depression resources during and after pregnancy. Click HERE if you are interested in more information about the Task Force.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Some docs unhappy about online ratings

There are online forums where consumers can review all kinds of products and services: hotels, mechanics, video games, child care…and doctors.

In response, some physicians are now asking patients to sign agreements – "gag orders" in essence – that prohibit them from posting a possible negative review.

Is this the best way to deal with potential criticism?

Or is it really reasonable to measure medical care providers the way we rate a lawn service or a roofer?

On the one hand, it's understandable why these docs may be weary of unfair negative reviews. They're sometimes associated with unwanted test results, medical procedures that didn't go as planned…It's the old "don't shoot the messenger" adage.

But, that's not always the argument practitioners are making for wanting to quash online patient reviews. Dr. Jeffrey Segal, a surgeon who started Medical Justice, a company that helps docs produce these "waivers" says patients should only measure their doctors by their medical skills. A vital part, of course, but the only measure? In a recent AP news story, Dr. Segal uses this example of an unfair review from rateMDs.com: "Very unhelpful, arrogant," it said of a doctor. "Did not listen and cut me off, seemed much too happy to have power (and abuse it!) over suffering people."

Fair or not fair – for a mom experiencing a mood disorder this review is valuable. Symptoms are often so confusing that moms need a doc who will take the time to listen. A care provider who shows compassion and understanding can be the very thing to lead a mom to recovery. Moreover, moms often do better with someone who will listen and works with treatment options vs. an experienced doc who holds great knowledge with an "it's my way or the highway" attitude.

Doesn't true medical skill involve both – compassion and knowledge?


 


 

 

Monday, March 9, 2009

30 Seconds of Your Time

Thank you, Susan Stone, for this alert-

Sign the petition in support of HR 20 - The Melanie Blocker Stokes MOTHERS Act:

Click on this link (or copy and paste it in to your browser) http://capwiz.com/ndmda/issues/alert/?alertid=12832296

This is on an advocacy alert page on the DBSA website. Scroll down, enter your zip code and it automatically generates a nicely written letter to your Congressman.

I even added a little note to the letter to my representative, Mary Jo Kilroy, explaining my support on a personal level - and the whole thing still took less than a couple minutes.

Sunday, March 8, 2009

Great "Wellness Wisdom" Tips from DBSA

Can't seem to get a laundry list of worries from consuming your thoughts?

Feeling frustrated about not being able to control or accomplish all that you want?

Try out these tips from the Facing Us Clubhouse
from the fantastic folks at the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance:

Worry Writing
"When I feel overwhelmed with anxiety, I sometimes take out my journal and make a "worry list.” I start with the sentence stem, “I am worried that…”, and finish the sentence with as many things as I can think of. I don’t stop until I cannot think of any more. One time I had 31 worries! Getting all those worries written out is better than having them swirling around in my head. It helps me feel a little more in control."

“Can” Coping
"When I go through a depression, I’ve found it helpful to reframe my limitations in terms of “I can’t ____, but I can ____.” I don’t remember where I learned this, but I am grateful to whoever invented this coping strategy. An example is “I can’t do a lot of activities with my daughter, but I can encourage her to have her friends over to keep her engaged and entertained.” Or 'I can’t work right now, but I can do a bit of volunteering to make me feel productive and useful.' "

Friday, March 6, 2009

Why we do what we do: Because it works. Here's some proof.

Mom to Mom Support Prevents PPD

Excerpted from WEB MD:

"Phone calls from volunteer mothers who overcame postpartum depression prevent depressive symptoms in at-risk mothers, a Canadian study shows.

'Mothers who received this support were at half the risk of depressive symptoms 12 weeks after delivery,' says study leader Cindy-Lee Dennis, PhD, Canada research chair in perinatal community health at the University of Toronto.

The study included 701 women at risk of postpartum depression. Half got standard postnatal care and half got peer support. With standard care, 25% of the mothers had significant depressive symptoms 12 weeks after delivery. About half as many women who got peer support -- 14% -- had such symptoms.

...'So we recruited mothers from the community who felt they had themselves experienced postpartum depression, so they know what it is like," Dennis tells WebMD. "Mothers are more willing to disclose their feelings to another mother who knows what it is like than to a doctor or nurse.' "

LINK TO FULL ARTICLE

Thursday, March 5, 2009

March Meeting Schedule - NOTE THE CHANGE

POEM Columbus Support Group Meeting Schedule for March -

Saturday, March 21 at 10am
***This is a week later than our usual Saturday. POEM will be at the Baby Bonanza: Everything from Pregnancy to Preschool on te 14th. Come and check it out.

Monday, March 30 at 7pm

Meetings are held at Northwest Counseling
1560 Fishinger Rd
Columbus, OH 43221

CLICK HERE FOR MAP/DIRECTIONS

Please call the Support Line, 614-315-8989, if you have any questions.



It’s okay to reach out for help.
That’s why we’re here.

www.poemonline.org

Postpartum Dads on the Radio

Here is a wonderful resource that is now posted on the PSI website. Please take the time to listen to the recording of the live Childhood Matters radio show recorded on Jan. 31st. Our two PSI Dads Coordinators, Will and David, and their guests presented this valuable hour.

Hosted by Dr. Will Courtenay, with guests David Klinker from postpartumdads.org, and PSI Member Lee Safran, MFT, marriage and family therapist.

Here's the link:
http://postpartum.net/resources/women-mothers/childhood-matters-radio-show-dads-as-postpartum-partners/

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Online PPD assessment - it's a good thing, they say!

A new study in the March 13 issue of the Maternal Child Health Journal (pubmed link) has concluded that using the internet to screen for postpartum depression is "viable and feasible." Since quality and consistent screening for moms at doctor's appointments throughout pregnancy and postpartum doesn't look to be on the near horizon here in Ohio, the online assessment is a real alternative.

So, if something just doesn't feel right - click this link. It may help guide your next steps.

And POEM is here...every step of the way.

PSI now has weekly info sessions for Dads, too!

Postpartum Support International has recently added a weekly informational phone forum for Dads. They continue to offer the weekly Wednesday chat for moms.
There is no need to register, the sessions are live and free, and the facilitators are licensed, mental-health professionals. This is a place where dads, partners, extended family members or other support people, and professionals can find some answers and support from an expert – and from other men. Dads will find honest and compassionate talk about the adjustment to parenthood, information about how fatherhood can affect you, and some helpful advice. Participation can be anonymous.

See this link for details. http://postpartum.net/info-sessions/

Melanie Blocker Stokes MOTHERS Act now scheduled for mark up in the House!

Susan Stone, immediate past president of Postpartum Support International, reports that the Melanie Blocker Stokes MOTHERS Act is scheduled for markup this Wednesday, March 4th, in the Energy & Commerce Committee. She has all the info on this very important legislation, a list of representatives who can be encouraged to support the bill and the numerous great organizations who join us in supporting the MOTHERS Act. Check it out at http://perinatalpro.com/blog/?p=129

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Anne Dunnewold is Coming Tomorrow!

Just in the nick of time, I've learned that Anne Dunnewold, PhD, will be sharing her expertise here in Columbus tomorrow at the seminar: Women's Mental Health: Emotional Aspects of Reproduction Function


Anne is one of POEM's favorite experts, having authored our often -used Even June Cleaver Would Forget the Juice Box book, among other great reads.

Thank you to Maggie Hallet for sharing this with us!

Could Be Worse

Pregnancy is certainly a physically and emotionally challenging time for many of us humans.

But, wowsers - check out poor Phoebe in this cute story in yesterday's Columbus Dispatch: Elephant Baby on Board

Golf Outing!

Dads and golfers -
Plan to take the day off on May 13 and play some golf for POEM!

The first-ever POEM Golf Outing planning is under way. The outing will be held on Wednesday May 13, 2009 at Willow Run Golf Course. If you're interested in helping our POEM Dads with door prizes, donations or other planning assistance please email or call (614.315.8989) anytime.

More details to come soon...